Social Wellness refers to our relationships and how we interact with other people. It involves good communication skills, respect for self and others, meaningful relationships and a good support system. According to a study by Umberson & Montez, relationships influence health through a process of reinforcing or inhibiting health-promoting or health-damaging behaviors over time. The bible is full of verses about all relationships. One of which is Proverbs 17:17, which says that a friend loves at all times; and a brother is born for adversity. Genesis 2:18 says the following: The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Our relationships are important, even from God’s perspective.
The bible gives some good standards for our various relationships.
- Husband & Wife relationship:Ephesians 5:22-33; Colossians 13:18 &19
- Children & Parents: Ephesians: 6: 1-3
- Fathers & Children: Ephesians 6:4
- Church family: Colossians 3:12- 14
- Friends: Proverbs 27:5 – 6; John 15:12-15
- Employer & employee: Colossians 3:23; Deuteronomy 15:10; Deuteronomy 24:14
Oftentimes our relationships are mirrors that reflect the inner-workings or hidden areas of our souls. The soul is like a magnet that draws our circumstances to us. If you find that your relationships have a common theme of joy and endurance, then I’m 99.999% sure that you have mastered 2 Corinthians 10:5; and Philippians 4:8. However, if you’re like many of us who are still learning to bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ and thinking on love and positive things; then take this opportunity to make a solid decision to begin healing these toxic thoughts, feelings and emotions that have habitually created less-than-desirable circumstances in your relationships. As children, we learned how to relate to others from our family members; as well as from teachers, friends, and other group members that we were associated with. If what we’ve learned was unhealthy or dysfunctional, we can change it. Healthy relationships are ours to enjoy; as well as a component of overall wellness.
If you would like to strategies for improving the social area of wellness in your life, do consider joining me for my next All is Wellness program session beginning on March 18th. Please feel free to email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Until next time…..many blessings!
Mark 12:30 & 31 (NIV) says: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself. There is no commandment greater than these.” As I thought on these verses, my mind rested on a vision that I recently had during my morning prayer time. I found myself at the feet of God as He sat on His throne. I then was cradled in His arms. I remember feeling the love radiating throughout my being. After being loved on by God, for what seemed like a little while, I found myself standing before His throne. He placed what seemed like a force-field around me. I immediately thought of my eldest son; and he suddenly appeared cradled in God’s loving arms. My son had bumped his head hard the day before. In this vision, I saw God gently rub my son’s head and a golden substance flowed from His hand to my son’s head. God then kissed him, and placed him within my force-field. One-by-one, each of my children appeared cradled in God’s arms; and he hugged and kissed them; and placed them each within my force-field. Lastly, my husband appeared in God’s arms. He did the same; and then placed my husband and his force-field around all of us.
My reason for sharing this part of the vision, is to illustrate the Mark 12:30 & 31 principle. We can only love God, because of His first loving us. His love fills us and overflows to our neighbors. We can only love God by His strength alone (Philippians 4:13); and only with His love (1 Corinthians 13:4-8). We can’t love ourselves or others without His love. Love begins with Him. It’s His love that gives us our identity and that makes us loveable. He sees us as the apple of His eye (Zechariah 2:8, Proverbs 7:2, Psalm 17:8); and His treasured possession (Deuteronomy 7:6, 14:2, 26:18, Psalm 135:4). When we think about ourselves the way that God does, we automatically love ourselves and bring healing an order to our thoughts, body and circumstances. We automatically love our neighbors because of God’s love.
Neighbors refer to anyone who is not you (at least that’s the way that I define it for my children). In this particular post, I’m referring to spouses as our neighbors. Sometimes, marriage can be challenging when spouses are not on the same page; or if either spouse is distracted. Please take comfort in knowing that God has our backs; and is with us every step of the way. We must renew our minds to know that marriage is honorable, esteemed worthy, precious, of great price, and especially dear – in all things (Hebrews 13:4). The “high thought” of our culture about marriage is to just get out of it; if it’s not working to your satisfaction. Here’s the thing, people seem to understand that businesses, education and success in general, take years to obtain. It’s accepted and expected that there will be highs and lows, good times and not-so-great times; but you don’t give up. Marriage, just like new businesses, is like birthing a baby. You’ll often hear entrepreneurs refer to their businesses as their babies. Marriage is the same. If something’s not working, you evaluate and strategically plan to improve that area. You set goals, put standard operating procedures in place. You do all that you can to ensure the success of the marriage. It amazes me that people go to training and workshops, work long hours and such for the success of their careers; but somehow think that marriage is just going to just be successful. If no has told you before, things don’t work that way. You are supposed to have a successful marriage; but it’s probably going to require you to fight the good fight of faith (1 Timothy 6:12).
Psalm 34:19 (KJV) says: Many are the afflictions of the righteous: but the Lord delivereth him out of them all. We are guaranteed victory! The scriptures are filled with encouragement for victory; as well as God’s love and faithfulness. We see it with Joseph in the prison, Daniel in the lion’s den, and the 3 Hebrew boys in the fire pit (just to name a few). They all endured some HARD circumstances, but they all overcame and were elevated.
Marriage was instituted by God, so I’m quite confident that yours will workout when you follow His lead. 1 Peter 3:8-9 (AMP) is a good guideline: Finally, all [of you] should be of one and the same mind (united in spirit), sympathizing [with one another], loving [each the others] as brethren (of one household), compassionate and courteous—tenderhearted and humble-minded. Never return evil for evil or insult for insult—scolding, tongue-lashing, berating; but on the contrary blessing—praying for their welfare, happiness and protection, and truly pitying and loving them. For know that to this you have been called, that you may yourselves inherit a blessing [from God]—obtain a blessing as heirs, bringing welfare and happiness and protection. Invest in yourself and your spouse by spending time with God. You will begin to think like God, concerning your marriage. God is THE ultimate mastermind; and He knows how to turn around your marriage….. in 24 hours. With Him, EVERYTHING is possible. Do you believe it?!
Happy Belated New Year to All who read this post! I sincerely wish you a disciplined year, so that you will accomplish all of your goals. Tonight’s post is about physical wellness; which is defined as recognizing the need for physical activity, healthy food and sleep (SAHMSA). According to a report by the Center for Disease Control (CDC) only 23% of Americans get the recommended amount of exercise. I won’t even bother with the statistics on nutrition, because it’s complete disaster. According to the National Sleep Foundation, Americans sleep an average of 7 hours and 36 minutes; which is within the sleep recommendation range, however, 35 % reported poor or fair sleep quality. In a nutshell, Americans have poor quality exercise, nutrition and sleep habits. It’s no wonder that over half of all Americans take prescription drugs; and they average taking four. That’s a lot of drugs and alot of money. Early last year, the average price for generic prescription drugs was $80 for a month’s supply. (1) $320 is quite a bit to pay for drugs that are only treating symptoms. I just don’t know how this is a viable solution to anyone. In my mind’s eye, if you have a problem, RESOLVE it! Don’t put patches on it or allow it to linger.
So what does the bible say about physical health and wellness? Concerning exercise, 1 Timothy 4:8 says that physical training is of some value. There are quite a few verses regarding nutrition. Genesis 1:29 talks about fruit and vegetables. Genesis 9:3 states that everything that moves, would be food for them. Nehemiah 8:10 talks about eating fat. Of course there’s the vegetables and water diet in Daniel 1:12. Here’s the thing to consider…..their diets were related to where they were and where they were going. When Adam and Eve were in the garden (a stress-free place), fruits and vegetables was the diet. When Noah and his sons came out of the ark to a post-flood earth, every living thing was the diet. When the children of Israel were in the desert, they ate manna, but when they entered the Canaan, the manna stopped and they ate corn and fruit from the land (Joshua 5:12). So, you have to know where you are on your journey; and how to eat optimally for it. As for sleep, there is one verse that I think is God’s intention for His people. It is Psalm 127:2 (CEB): It is pointless that you get up early and stay up late, eating the bread of hard labor because God gives sleep to those he loves.
When Jesus prayed in Matthew 6:10 – your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven. When I think of heaven, I’m hard-pressed to believe that sickness or disease is there. Our bodies are God’s temple; and we are to honor God with our bodies (1 Corinthians 16:19-20). How do you do this? Is your temple reflective of heaven….fit for the King of kings to live in; or does it need some work?
For as long as I can remember, I have always wanted people to be healthy and well. I suspected that disease and sickness were not normal. Later on, I read “Of Monkeys and Dragons” by Michele Longo O’Donnell. She confirmed my idea and introduced me to the concept that sickness and disease was intruders in our lives. We did not have to accept them. She further gave an example of how her daughter was born mentally retarded; but overcame it and became a lawyer, wife and mother in her adult life. Was this a miracle? Back then, I thought so…..until I discovered the work and research of neuroscientist Dr. Caroline Leaf, cell biologist, Bruce Lipton & medical doctor, Dr. Don Colbert. I’ve learned that EVERY thing that affects our bodies (& lives) first started as a thought. Many of us are not even aware of our thoughts or the fact that they essentially produce our lives. As Dr. Leaf says, Thoughts hold mental real estate in our brains. Toxic and negative thinking produces toxic and negative bodies and lives; just as healthy and positive thinking, produces healthy and positive bodies and lives. Proverbs 23:7 says it like this: As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.
Thinking is a law…..just like gravity, lift, disease, etc. are all laws. The good thing about laws is that they are consistent; and even better is that higher laws can help us transcend lower laws. For example, as mentioned earlier, the law of gravity is a natural law. We know that if someone decides to jump off a building, they’re going to hit the ground. On the contrary, the law of lift transcends the law of gravity and allows for many people to fly in airplanes. Philippians 4:8 is a law. It says to think on things that are true, honest, just, pure, lovely, of a good report, virtuous and praiseworthy. In neuroscience, we see that our thoughts become actual things in our brains. They produce tree-like structures in our brains that communicate with the rest of our bodies. Positive thoughts look like flourishing trees; while negative thoughts look like dried up trees. It reminds me of the famous experiment lead by Dr. Masaru Emoto years ago, that showed how water crystals responded to positive and negative speech. As you might have guessed, perfect water crystals were formed when spoken to positively; while distorted water crystals were formed when spoken to negatively. This is exact effect on the “trees” in our brain when we think positively or negatively.
I said all of that to say, that our health is 20% exercise and nutrition, and 80% your thoughts or mental attitude. This is great, because we have the ability to choose the life we desire……disease-free and healthy; or disease-ridden and sickly. Deuteronomy 30:19 (CEB) puts it this way: I call heaven and earth as my witnesses against you right now: I have set life and death, blessing and curse before you. Now choose life—so that you and your descendants will live. This verse explains principles of neuroscience and epigenetics.
I discovered that my desire for people to be well, lied in 3 John 1:2: Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth. The key to health & wellness lies in a prosperous (flourishing, healthy, vigorous) soul (mind, will & emotions). We have been taught that the use of affirmations can change our lives. This is a partial truth. Affirmations can actually be damaging to our brains, if there is a conflict with our actual beliefs. I offer the ALL IS WELLness program that teaches you how to properly use affirmations; as well as other tools to improve the 8 Dimensions of wellness in your life. For more information on the next session of the program beginning on 1/7/19, please feel free to email me at email@example.com. Until next time, be excellent!
Environmental Wellness is defined by SAMHSA as: “Good health by occupying pleasant, stimulating environments that support well-being.” How are the environments that surround you? Are they pleasant, stimulating and orderly, or unpleasant, uninspiring and chaotic? There have been a number of published studies about the effect of environment of health. One of which was a 2010 study published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, that measured the way women talked about their homes. Those who characterized their homes as cluttered and brimming with unfinished projects, were at a higher risk of being depressed and exhausted, than women who described their homes as restful and restorative. What does the bible have to say about our environment? 1 Corinthians 14:40 says: But all things should be done decently and in order. Additionally, 1 Corinthians 14:33 states: For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.
When I read scripture, I like to analyze it and see how it presently applies to my life. I ask questions. What’s the consequence of things being done inadequately and disordered or messy? OR, If God is not a God of confusion (disorder, chaos, messiness), then WHO is? If God is a God of peace, and He’s always with me (Hebrews 13:5), then my environment should be one of peace, since it reflects my inner thoughts. Does anyone else think like this or is it just me? I understand that our homes, cars, etc. get out-of-order from time-to-time; but to living in perpetual state of clutter and disorganization is an invitation to address the root cause of this outer manifestation. We were designed to live in peaceful and orderly environments…..that’s why Adam and Eve were placed in the Garden of Eden. I’m pretty sure that it was a place of peace, order and pleasantness.
If you are a person who deals with a perpetually disordered environment, kudos to you for reading thus far. There is help and hope for you. In so many words, Albert Einstein said that you can’t solve a problem with the same level of thinking that created it. Romans 12:2 says it like this: “…..be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Soooo, you have to work on your thoughts….as well as a system for cleaning and keeping things in order. Set aside a few minutes daily to affirm yourself with Philippians 4:13 (I can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens me). You can keep your environments orderly by God’s strength within you. There are a plethora of cleaning schedules on Pinterest; as well as organization videos on YouTube. You can also hire a cleaning person/service and/or an organization expert to help you out.
The way that you take care of your environments is just as important as the way that you take care of your physical health, finances and the other five wellness dimensions. Blessings as you continue on your path in excellence!
A couple of years ago, I was a full-time SAHM, had 3 part-time jobs; as well as a home-based fitness business…..and a new baby (in addition to two toddlers). I heard a familiar inner voice say to me to stop working. I thought to myself: “This must be the devil.” But then, I heard it again and I knew Who it was. I REALLY didn’t want to stop working. I enjoyed my line of work; and I had worked my entire adult life, and was self-sufficient. Therein lied the problem. I was SELF-sufficient. I relied on myself, rather than on God. I was terrified to give up control. Although I loved my husband, I didn’t want to be a burden to him or have to rely on him financially. Reluctantly, I began letting go of my jobs one-by-one. When it came down to the last one, I tried; but my sweet supervisor offered me some time off, before I made the final decision. So, I took a 3 month hiatus; meanwhile, attended a faith conference. Throughout this conference, random people (who I had never met before) would come up to me and give me money; as well as give me compliments on my mothering skills. It was then that I knew, that God was encouraging me to trust Him; as well as showing me that He would provide for and take care of me. When I returned home from that trip, I resigned from my last job; and business.
I knew that I was called to home school my children; and so began to focus more on that; as well as homemaking, and spending more time with God. I set about reading more books….one of which was Lisa Bevere’s “Nurture: Give and Get what You Need To Flourish.” I started to understand the importance of mothering and encouraging other women…..on another level. Shortly after concluding that book, I developed some very close relationships with other women (particularly mothers). They began to draw this new-found knowledge and my gift of encouragement out of me. When I was focused on all of my jobs and business, I was distracted from God’s purpose…..for why He put me here for such a time as this.
From there, I formed a home school group, and have met so many other mothers who were interested in homeschooling, a relationship with God, or health & wellness. I’ve also been blessed to be in a community where many of the mothers that I meet are so kind, compassionate and helpful. I’ve met moms who were going through financial hardship, emotional pain from unspeakable trauma, marital challenges, health issues, children taken away, as well as other difficulties. There are three things that these ladies can always be assured of: 1. I do not share our conversations with anyone else, 2. I pray for them and 3. There is always a solution to EVERY problem.
This year, I’ve read and studied even more books; and discovered a passion for neuroscience (thanks to Dr. Caroline Leaf). I am ABSOLUTELY FASCINATED by the spirit/soul/ body connection, and had an idea to create a wellness program that encompasses this connection; as well as the Eight Dimensions of Wellness….. from a biblical perspective. My new program is entitled the: ALL IS WELLness program, after the words uttered by the Shunammite woman in 2 Kings 4. She spoke these powerful words, even though her circumstances seemed anything but well. The program is 9 weeks (63 days, 3 cycles of 21 days); because it takes 63 days (3 cycles of 21 days) to form a habit. The purpose of the program is to empower (especially) women and mothers to transform their lives, by changing their thoughts.
According to a 2005 article printed by the National Science Foundation, people think an average of 20,000 – 60,000 thoughts a day; of which 80% are negative and 95% are repeated daily. Uhhmmmm…..that’s kind of a BIG problem. Our negative thoughts create actual toxic things in our brains; which ultimately results in dis-ease in our bodies. Romans 12:2 says not to be conformed to this world; but be transformed by the renewing of our minds. In other words: Don’t think like everyone else with the negative thoughts. We do have the mind of Christ/Messiah according to 1 Corinthians 2:16. Commit to live above the influence of negativity; so that you can transform your life. Also, there’s 3 John 1:2 – Beloved, I pray that you may prosper in ALL things and be in good health, even as your soul prospers. Your soul comprises your mind, will and emotions. When it is healthy and non-toxic, ALL things in your life will prosper; as well as your health. It’s great to have nice things, have the ability to purchase both what you need and wan, as well as to be beautiful (or presentable) on the outside; BUT if you’re stressed out, have more month at the end of your money, questionable health, can’t stand certain people, have nagging ailments, yell at your kids, unhappy with yourself, etc., then your soul is NOT prospering. Here’s your opportunity to get your life on track to being transformed!
In closing, it is my sincerest hope, that you would join me for this life changing ALL IS WELLness program, beginning on 1/7/19. For more information, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org. Have an awesome week!
Psalm 127:3 says that children are a gift from the Lord and a reward from Him. I truly believe this; although I have my moments when quiet, nap or bed time can’t get here fast enough. I then find myself missing them….and hovering at their bed sides in admiration, joy and gratitude. It’s still quite amazing to me that I’m the mother of FOUR children. Like WOW!!! I’m in awe every day. I especially enjoy Summer time for all of the fun outdoor activities; and just one layer of clothes! It cuts down on my preparation time in getting out of the house, when we go somewhere. It’s nice to have that break from making sure that everyone has on their hats, scarves, boots, coats, mittens/gloves and snow suits. As the weather gets cooler and cooler, I have these fund memories from this past summer to keep me warm inside. Hope you enjoy the following video as much as I do!
I am so delighted to be sharing this blog! I have developed such a heart for homemakers. I’ve been a homemaker for 3 years; and the thing that I’ve observed is that many of the wives and mothers feel undervalued by their husbands and society; and/or like homemaking is not enough. Prior to becoming a full-time homemaker, I have to admit that I didn’t fully grasp or appreciate the high calling of a homemaker. It is a full-time ministry and a management position, wrapped up in one colossal responsibility. In the realm of education, there are 7 areas of Family and Consumer Science (formerly known as Home Economics) which includes the following:
- Child Development
- Education and Community Awareness
- Home Management & Design
- Sewing & Textiles
- Budgeting & Economics
- Health & Hygiene
Some of the above listed areas are so extensive, that they are their very own major. As homemakers, we do them all. What’s not on the list is minister or spiritual leader; which is a whole other level of leadership. Mamas/Wives, if you’ve ever felt that you don’t do enough, please do me a favor and say: “LIES!!! No more Satan!!” Also, if you feel that you’re failing as a wife and mom; make a commitment to get up 10 minutes earlier than your family members, and spend that time with God. It will make a world of difference; as well as shift you in the direction of perpetual success.
I named this blog after the Proverbs 31 woman. Depending on what translation you read, verse 10 refers to her as a virtuous, capable, worthy, competent, strong character, valiant, good and excellent woman/wife. She is also a very successful woman. She wakes up early. She’s a homemaker and businesswoman. She owns real estate. She homeschools her children with wisdom; and she’s joyful. If you’re reading this blog, I dare say that there is something deep within you that’s saying I am this woman….once you get past the surface level lies.
In the three years that I’ve been home with my family, I’ve had to make God my only source….not my husband, jobs/business or anyone else. I have learned firsthand; how truly trusting God, has catapulted me to a level that I could not have ever gotten to on my own. In my future blogs, I will write about when God told me to stop working; and completely rely on Him. It was a STRUGGLE. I’ll also tell y’all about nothing less than miraculous provision; as well as a story that I’m sure will absolutely blow your minds!
Again, I implore you to get up just 10 minutes earlier and spend that time with God; and to listen to His instruction throughout the day. It will take you to places that you’ve NEVER even imagined! I’ve linked a confession that you can begin decreeing over yourself entitled: “Victorious Confessions for the Virtuous Woman.” Until next time, have an EXCELLENT day!!!!