Marriage is like a life long course in selflessness and servitude. You put aside your own desires, in favor of those of your spouse and children. From what I can tell, it’s a beautiful thing. You go in as this person who you think you are; but with each passing day, week, month, year….you become so much more. You really don’t realize how much of a worm you were; until you look back, and see how much you’ve evolved into the beautiful butterfly that you are today.
The most beautiful thing about marriage, is that it’s an institution between God, husband and wife. God is the foundation and center of it all. He’s where our needs and desires get met. He is where the wisdom comes from on what to do daily….how to treat your spouse…..how to care for and instruct your children…..when and how to rest. He is the great gift giver; which means that our spouses and children are good and perfect gifts, and we are to steward them well.
Being a full time Stay At Home Wife & Mom (SAHWM) never entered my mind. I resisted it at first; but I’m glad I finally submitted to this treasure God had for me. I absolutely LOVE being with my children all day! They are so funny to me; and I just love how energetic and enthusiastic they are about the things that interest them. I love watching the interaction between all four of them; as well as how they interact with my husband and others. One of the greatest treasures is looking at things through their eyes. They are pureness, perpetual energy, brilliance and inquisitiveness all wrapped up into one. It’s such an honor to watch them grow holistically. My oldest son has had such discernment, ever since before he was able to talk. His spiritual eyes are open. Just last week, as I was sharing the KJV version of the Lord’s prayer that I learned as a kid, my son said: <Gasp!> “MOM!! I see the angels!” (as I was saying the prayer). My second son is very perceptive. Last week, we started reading the book of 1 Kings. As we read chapter 1, which happened to be on the day of inauguration, my second son said: “Mommy, Adonijah is Joe Biden and Solomon is President Trump.” I just admire how they so readily believe in God; and that He can do anything.
Being my husband’s wife is quite the adventure! Prior to meeting him, I never considered myself a morning person…..well at least not early morning. How did I end up with a person who got up EVERY morning at 4 am??????? In the beginning it was rough. My husband is Mr. Talkative and full of all of this energy and these great ideas in the mornings. I did not want to hear him or anyone else until after 9 am. Over time, I realized that getting up with him at 4 am was an opportunity. I could learn about everything on his mind…..no detail left out, if I got up with him. And so I did. Just when I got into the rhythm of getting up at 4, he started getting up at 2. Needless to say, part of my appreciation for being a SAHW is that I can go to bed, get up, and take naps at my leisure.
One of my favorite things about being my husband’s wife, is being a sounding board for him. One day he came home and asked my thoughts on a potentially lucrative business proposal that someone wanted him to invest in. After hearing about it, I said that it didn’t even align with who we were. He called the guy right away and declined the offer.
Though I never imagined that I’d ever be a full-time SAHWM, I am so glad that I am! I enjoy planning their meals and snacks, school days, and the challenge of keeping my home in order. I also enjoy making sure that my husband has good meals before he leaves and when he stops in during the day. I especially enjoy that God has taken such good care of me through it all. He makes sure that I have the help that I need. He makes sure that I get the breaks that I need. He makes sure that I have all that I need. I remember years ago when I saw 2 Corinthians 9:8 in bold black letters in a dream. I woke up and looked it up; and God has been true to His word without fail. When he said that He was able to make all grace (every favor and earthly blessing) COME to me in abundance; He meant it….and nothing less.
Just within the last month or so, a kind stranger paid for my groceries. My sister bought my kids a bunch of new clothes and their favorite treats. My mom also blessed my children with some of their favorite things. My chef brought us a huge box of snacks; and baked us some of her most nutritious treats. I called my husband a couple days ago to ask for the psi of my tires. He showed up two minutes later; and filled all of my tires with air. That was such a blessing; because it has been very COLD here where we live. I recognize all of these things and people to be expressions of God’s love grace being poured out on my family and me. Still one of my most favorite things that God does is the multiple flower deliveries throughout the month. I am still so grateful to God’s nature. He is SO kind and loving to us. I only desired one bouquet of flowers; but God’s thoughts were exceedingly above my thoughts and imagination. He’s so precious; and every time I receive a new flower delivery, my heart overflows with gratitude all over again. God takes care of His children; and I believe He has such a special place in His heart for wives and mothers. If you are a Stay At Home Wife and or Mom, please share how God has treasured and taken care of you.